Sexuality, the way people experience and express their sexual orientation, is the main way in which humans experience and react to their sexuality. People engage in various sexual acts, ranging from spontaneous, unplanned activities done by themselves for personal pleasure, to intimate, planned activities with another individual for varying purposes, for a myriad of reasons. In some instances, people have sex for the purpose of procreation. Others do so because they are unhappy with their sexual relationship or lack the necessary libido or interest in sex. Still others may experience a lack of interest in sex that forces them to have impulsive sexual acts to fill the void left by other, less fulfilling sexual needs. Regardless of why people have sex, the experience always leaves some feeling satisfied and/or emotionally satisfied.
The experience of sex itself, whether spontaneous or impulsive, leaves both parties feeling satisfied. The physical act of sex, which includes the touching and penetration of one’s sexual organs with the mouth or penis, leaves both participants feeling excited and pleased. Emotionally, the shared physical contact, the emotions felt during the act, and the feelings experienced afterwards including arousal, euphoria, and satisfaction, are all important components of sexual happiness. Sexually satisfied people are happier and healthier.
Intense arousal and orgasm are also common feelings after engaging in sexual intercourse. The intense sensations of orgasm, occurring without warning, often lead people to reach orgasm quickly, producing a pleasurable release of energy and semen, which helps to relieve tension within the body and provide relief from stress. Achieving orgasm, however, does not always automatically produce ejaculation; sometimes only orgasm is present, and sometimes ejaculation is not possible due to anatomical factors. In these cases, men and women tend to reach orgasm simultaneously, which can be an extremely pleasurable sensation for both partners.
The development and strengthening of the pelvic floor muscles, which allow for greater vaginal and male sexual stimulation, takes place during sexual arousal and orgasm. Learning how to use these muscles correctly is essential to ensuring that orgasm occurs and that ejaculation is not possible. Proper sexual stimulation, through both the eyes and mouth, ensures that partners are not only sexually aroused but are also fully aware of the other person’s needs. This gives a complete sexual interaction a more satisfying feel to both participants. However, this is not something that occurs automatically.
Most people have general characteristics of arousal and orgasm, including a desire to experience sexual activity, relaxation, being sexually stimulated, and an expectation of a pleasurable outcome. These general characteristics are important in defining a person’s sexuality, but they do not define a person specifically. An individual’s level of eroticism, their level of awareness, and their imagination, will often determine their own level of arousal and how easily they will reach orgasm. There are no general aspects that define a person’s sexuality, but there are several aspects that can help a person determine their own arousal and orgasmic potential.
These general characteristics can often be broken down into smaller areas and sub-indents. Sensory stimulation is one of the biggest contributors to arousing sexual feelings in both men and women. This is a physical sensation that involves touching, brushing, squeezing, sucking and other such tactile and verbal activities. Perceptual stimulation is related to the emotional aspect of sex and involves thinking about or imagining certain things during sex. And whereas expectation is related to how a person will act, feeling, or even think about having sex, and finally there is actuality, this last area deals with the experience the person has of sex as it occurs.